so recently i feel like when i plan my days i have plenty of time to do everything that needs to be done. but, at the end of the day i sit down and look at all the things i didn’t get done or still have left to do. i feel like i am slacking in my commitments to people and things. that is not like me at all. i have always valued the fact that if you are going to do something or say you are going to… you do it. i don’t think that i am stretching myself to thin, but something has to change.
i know its cheesy but john tesh always says for every to do list you make, make a “have done” list. this is pretty good advice if you stop and think about it. if you look at the things that you have already accomplished, then maybe you will be motivated to continue the next day without getting bogged down in the pressure of what is next on the mental do list.
project management has turned out to be a pretty cool class this semester. i am getting a chance to discuss things in class instead of solving calculations all the time. we actually talked about something relevant to my topic today. we talked about the different types of power leaders have, some good and some bad and some good that are used in a bad way. one power is that reverential power. people want to be liked and approved of. this is me all the way. i can not stand it when people are upset with me or disapprove of something i do. the people you are about are the people you want to do your best work for. you want to do things for them, volunteer, go above and beyond, and more because it is almost like a symbiotic relationship. they benefit from you doing things to help them out, and you benefit by helping them and getting joy from doing that. i think this is a good thing, but can get out of hand if not carefully handled. you say yes to much (me) and you can’t do your best for everyone, and if you do, it makes the experience dreadful. you may get a great final project or result but is it worth the pain and stress? i think sometimes saying no to someone can be just as good as saying yes. good for them and for you; they can go get the help they deserve and you can focus on the tasks you have at hand. they will respect you for that and will give you another chance later on.
eric, in staff meetings, always talks about being a good leader means you are constantly trying to put yourself out of a job. finding someone to take your place and do the job as well or better than you. i am a doer. i like to jump in and just get things done. sometimes it is easier. well easier at the time. in the long run it messes up things down the line. this concept of passing your job along is nothing new to me. i have always heard it, but recently i have started to embrace it. so here it goes.
hope you were able to get something out of this. went on longer than expected.
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